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1. Different responses to meetings
Unexpected responses when you make contact with a birth family member for the first time. Written from experience and expertise and also with help from research: The Adoption Reunion Handbook …Read More
2. Helping your reunion be the best it can be
Helping Your Reunion to be the Best it Can Be for All Concerned. Naming and taming the problems that you may encounter. Written from our experience and expertise and also …Read More
3. Hope for the best prepare for anything
The journey of searching for your relatives. We advise you to hope for the best but be prepared for the unknown when searching for your birth relatives. You are contemplating …Read More
4. Reactions to rejection
Reactions to Rejection Written from our experience and expertise and also with help from research: The Adoption Reunion Handbook by Julia Feast, David Howe and Liz Trinder. (Wiley 2004 p.43) …Read More
5. What if you feel no connection
What to do if you feel no connection with the relative you have searched for. Learning to manage your expectations from the outset. Written from our experience and expertise and …Read More
6. What to say in your first letter to a relative
What to say in your introductory letter if you are making contact with a birth relative for the very first time. The introductory letter introduces you to your birth relative …Read More
7. What will I tell my adoptive family?
Advice for an adopted person who is concerned about the impact of tracing birth family on their adoptive parents. Written from our experience and expertise and also with help from …Read More
8. When you do not want to be in touch
This advice note is for when we have contacted you and you do not wish to be in touch with the birth relative concerned. If you have difficulties with language …Read More
9. Where and how to meet
Organising your First Meeting with a previously unknown birth relative. Written from our experience and expertise and also with help from research: The Adoption Reunion Handbook by Julia Feast, David …Read More
10. Why does this take so long
Why does this process of being in touch with a birth relative take so long. We know it is frustrating to wait to hear whether or not we can proceed …Read More
11. When the subject is deceased
When the Subject of your Search is found to be Deceased. Not all searches for birth relatives are straightforward, and sadly we do find situations where the outcome is that …Read More
12. Genetic sexual attraction
Adoption and Genetic Sexual Attraction to birth relatives. This is not a subject that would get raised in polite society and it may be hard to talk about or even …Read More
13. If you didn’t know you were adopted
We might have contacted you – and you think you were not adopted. Occasionally we contact people who firmly believe that they have not been adopted. So, lets explore this …Read More
14. Your birth records
Your Birth Records This advice leaflet is written from our experience, and also with advice from research (Trinder L. Feast J. and Howe D. 2004 The Adoption Reunion Handbook published …Read More
15. Keeping you safe
This advice leaflet is written from our experience and also with advice from research (Trinder L. Feast J. and Howe D. 2004 The Adoption Reunion Handbook published by Wiley). Keeping …Read More
16. Your adoption journey
Clarifying the Steps of the Adoption Intermediary Journey. The goal of our work is to help you find a relative from whom you are separated through adoption. However, we must …Read More
17. Why choose counselling with us
Adoption Tracing Counselling Support. Professional Standards Authority Accredited Member 023263 Customer Care at Joanna North Adoption Adoption Intermediary Work. Welcome to our service. We are looking forward to working with …Read More
18. Our risk assessment
Introduction to Risk Assessment and Management. This leaflet is to prompt you to raise any important questions when you have your initial consultation with us. You may wonder why we …Read More
19. If our approach is a surprise
Advice to help you if our approach to you has been a big and unwelcome surprise. We never set out to do our Adoption Intermediary work with the intention of …Read More
20. The problem with interrupting due process
The problems that arise if you interrupt the intermediary process before it is completed. We understand that our clients are always very keen to get on with the process of …Read More
21. The Adoption Contact Register
Adoption Contact Register and Vetos What is the Adoption Contact Register? The adoption contact register is held by the general register officer for England and Wales. It is where adults …Read More
22. What to consider before you say ‘yes’
What to consider before you say ‘yes’ you do wish to have contact. First of all, we would like to thank you for your consideration in this matter and for …Read More
23. You didn’t know your parent had another child
You didn’t know your parent had another child. This leaflet is written to support people if we have contacted them about a sibling they did not know about. This will …Read More
24. My children don’t know I had a child adopted
My children don’t know that I had a child adopted when I was younger. It is a common scenario in our work that we contact the birth parent of an …Read More
25. Further risk assessment questions
Being Clear About Risk. Risk Assessment – General You may wonder why we make a risk assessment of all the people we work with – whether you are our client …Read More
Children tell us how to understand our brain
In this video, written by Betsy de Thierry, children tell us how to understand our brain – and what happens when we are shocked and traumatised. ‘We are not naughty …Read More
26. Under 25? Why your search is different
Being Clear About Risk. Some agencies we know won’t conduct searches for any young people under the age of 25 because they feel that the people involved will be too …Read More
27. Your intention and mindset
The Right Frame of Mind and the Intention for your Search. He who seeks Equity must do Equity. Your Intention. You may have noticed in our Consultation that we draw …Read More
28. Managing anxiety
Managing Anxiety During your journey with us. Anxiety when making a Search. It is inevitable that a journey to meet previously unknown family members may cause feelings. Some of these …Read More
29. The adoption journey
The Adoption Journey The goal of our work is to help you find a relative from whom you are separated through adoption. We will work diligently towards that outcome. However, …Read More
30. Steps to find birth parents
Steps we will take once we are ready to contact your birth parent or birth family relative. Our clients are often curious about what we are doing behind the scenes …Read More
31. Trauma and your mental health
Trauma and the Adoption Search Journey Some of our clients are curious as to why we ask about any past traumatic events as part of our risk assessment and our …Read More
32. Shame and guilt over adoption
Understanding Shame and Guilt for Adults Affected by Adoption. Highlighted in the Government’s Human Rights Committee report “Violation of Family Life 1949-1976.” You can find this report on our Adults …Read More
33. Historical abuse
Why do we ask you about Historical Abuse or Non Recent Abuse? Not surprisingly people wonder why we are asking about any past abuse in their lives. We do this …Read More
34. You didn’t know your parent was not your parent
When you didn’t know your parent was not your birth parent. In our work we often enjoy being part of nice surprises in people’s lives that benefit them and open …Read More
35. When we contact your relatives
Our First Contact Letters. After months of effort the time will eventually come when we can move ahead with the first contact letter to your birth relative. We will have …Read More
36. Always guard your identity
Protect Your Privacy This advice leaflet is written for our clients and the subjects of our searches. It relates to protecting your identity and personal information. All our searches are …Read More
37. You didn’t know you were a dad
You didn’t know you fathered this child. Its great news to hear that you are going to be a Dad but often the biggest surprise if an adult person contacts …Read More
38. Reaching out to adoptive parents
Reaching Out to Adoptive Parents. We want to reach out to adoptive parents. You may feel forgotten as your adopted child (possibly now an adult) seeks to find their birth …Read More
39. The final contact letter goes out
When Our Third Contact Letter Goes Out We will have called you to explain that we have now sent out the third and final letter to the subject of your …Read More
40. Research references that inform our work
Research and Practice that Informs Our Work and our Advice Leaflets. Compiled by Dr. Joanna North. Dr. Steven C Hayes.Professor of Psychology at University of Nevada.A Liberated Mind.Research on …Read More
More on Mind Kind – Raising Children Q&A
Audrey Toms, psychotherapist, interviews Jo North on the book Mind Kind. All laymen’s questions answered in this five part interview – if you haven’t got time to read the book …Read More
Illness to Wellness through Healing Space
Jo North talking with Becky Hays on her Healing Space podcast. In this episode, Resolving Trauma with Dr Joanna North, Jo discusses recovery from trauma with Becky. Listen to the …Read More
Helping Children Feel More Secure in an Age of Insecurity
If your child feels secure in themselves and their relationships, they will be better able to deal with life’s challenges. Dr Joanna North shares her advice for parents in this …Read More
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